October 9th, 2013 at 3:30 pm
Law school is a huge time commitment (duh). Chances are during your 3 years in school you will be the busiest you’ve ever been, with all types of pressures from doing well and preparing for classes, strict deadlines, commitments you’ve made to internships, or student organizations and the miscellaneous that will inevitable pop up. This doesn’t leave a lot of time for much else, and law school will consume most of your focus for the next couple of years.
So what about your other huge commitment, you know, the one you made when you said “I do”? Being married and being in law school requires a balance that is tricky to maintain. Especially when you’re a newlywed. The key: open and honest communication. It is important before starting law school to have a conversation with your spouse to make sure you both are on the same page when it comes to what you both hope to gain by attending law school. My husband and I discussed what we thought my career path would be, what my expectations were going into law school, and also what he expected out of my going to law school. Thankfully we were on the same page, and because of this my husband understood and supported me (and still is!) through the long nights and red bull infused frenzies.
While I’m no Dr. Phil, my recommendation to all prospective newly married law students, have the conversation! Make sure your goals and aspirations are communicated to your partner so they know what to expect in the coming years. And always, in the hectic schedules that you create, always pencil in some quality time for yourself and your partner. Taking care of his(or her) mental health is just as important as taking care of your own, and you will need your support system in tip top shape come finals time.